Expanding One’s Circle  © August 13, 2003

”Lighten the Load & Love Will Unfold” ©

The trials and tribulations of others are just that. There is no need to lay claim to another's situation. The position one finds her or himself in is the creation of the individual her or himself. The end result is the visual display of the decisions and choices that she or he has made. When an individual is able to recognize that she/he is not responsible for another's situation, she/he can then use the energy for her/his own mission.

Misdirected energy is constantly being engaged in, as most intertwine and merge with the challenges of others. There is no need to; in fact to better support another it is wise to remain separate. Be an observer but not a participant. This also frees the person in a particular position to direct her/his energy into changing her/his position. When an individual realizes that there is no one who is going to bail her or him out it assists the individual in a way that stimulates making her/his own decision for her/his own situation.

This is an important factor within a relationship, no matter what the combination. There are times when the problems/challenges of others are best left alone. In fact it is best to concentrate only on one's own challenges, for we all have them. It is a part of the life journey. Being supportive, being a listener, and being a motivator can and will assist another, but it is still up to the individual to make change to move past her/his challenge.

Without the decision making process and taking action, little will be accomplished. Remember life unfolds one second at a time, one thought at a time, and it took many thoughts and decisions to arrive at the position one finds her/himself in. The windows for opportunity and the doors for making change are always available. A person has only to look and step through and new horizons will be available.

The stagnation occurs when an individual remains stationary. When she/he isn't willing to move out of the set circle little change will occur, the pattern remains the same. Creating a new circle, one, which is expanded, offers the change necessary and then it will be expanded again, over and over again, growth being the result.

Many are stuck and have little desire to move forward. It is a personal choice. Each individual is responsible for her/his experiences. Each individual has free will with which to make decisions. When a person becomes stagnant and caught within a circle she/he has created it often takes a major event to break the cycle. This pinnacle or power point comes in many forms. It represents an awakening or in other words it forces the individual to make a choice or decision regarding the situation she/he finds her/himself in.

It is apparent that self is looking and searching for an alternative avenue for expression, all the while the individual is resisting change. This is a conflict within and self often continues feeding the cycle and at the same time creates a situation which will bring about the “power point”. In other words it is a defense mechanism of self attempting to maneuver past the block. Self is very masterful given a chance. Trust the situation is correct for the individual involved. It is part of the learning the individual has created for her/his self. No two paths are alike; no two journeys are the same. Each individual creates her/his own experience.

-BARBARA LYNN

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